Why Are Children Taken into Care?

There are some unfortunate stereotypes in the UK about looked after children. Here at FCA we’re committed to breaking down those barriers. This Foster Care Fortnight, we’re exploring some of the reasons why children are taken into care and learning more about what it’s like to be care experienced.

How many children are in care in the UK? 

Did you know…? 

  • There are currently almost 110,000 children in the UK who are living in care
  • Around 40% of children will be separated from their siblings while in foster care
  • There has been a drop in the number of new foster families over the last few years, which is why we need more caring and resilient individuals to consider fostering. 
Why Are Children Taken into Care?

Why do children need foster parents?

The important thing to remember is that it is never a child’s fault if they are removed from their family home. Children may be bought into the care of their Local Authority for a variety of reasons, including:    

  • A family crisis, such as a death in the family or court proceedings
  • Abuse, neglect or domestic violence in the home 
  • The effects of living in poverty
  • Parental illness, disability or addiction
  • A caregiver being sent to prison
  • A child’s family being unable to fully care for their additional needs, for example if a child has a complex disability or mental health needs 

Foster care is designed to give children a nurturing, loving environment where they can begin to heal from any trauma they may have experienced as a result of the challenges they’ve faced. With patience, a caring heart and our excellent training, our FCA foster parents have all the tools they need to give children the right support. 

 

Busting myths around foster care

Being care experienced is more common than people think. In fact, many famous faces, including BBC broadcaster Ashley John-Baptiste and Hollywood actor Barry Keoghan, spent time living in care when they were children. But it’s not just about famous success stories— it’s about the everyday lives of care experienced people up and down the UK, working hard to support their families and contribute to our society in amazing ways.  

In spite of this truth, there’s still an unfortunate stigma around growing up in the care of another family. Children and adults who have experience of living in care are known as being ‘care experienced.’ There is currently a movement gaining momentum which aims to add care experience as a tenth protected characteristic under UK law, alongside other protected characteristics like gender, sexuality and ethnicity. This would acknowledge the prejudice and inequality faced by many care experienced people, largely fuelled by false stereotypes.  

How does being in care impact children?

Every child who enters the foster care system will have experienced some form of enormous challenge in their young lives, coupled with the trauma of needing to be removed from their family home and separated from the life they’ve always known. These challenging events, which we call Adverse Childhood Experiences, can have an enormous impact on a young person’s development, mental and emotional health, and— if they are not given the proper therapeutic support they need to thrive— their future.   

That’s why we need amazing foster parents who are prepared to deal with the highs and lows of fostering a child, and who understand the effect that trauma can have on young lives. You’ll have our support on every step of the journey, and we’ll work together to ensure that every child who you could potentially care for receives the love and healing which they deserve.  

“Your vision for your life should not be determined by your start in life. It shouldn’t be determined by debilitating things that people have said… there’s nothing that looked after children can’t achieve. We’ve all got talent, we’ve all got potential, we’ve all got something to contribute.” 

  • Ashley John-Baptiste talking about his own experience in care
How many children are in care in the UK

Learn more about life for children in care 

One of the best ways to get involved in Foster Care Fortnight 2025 is by learning more about what life it like for care-experienced children, and by raising awareness by sharing what you learn with others on social media or in person. If you’re ready to learn more, checkout our some of our recommended reads below:  

Could you help to change a child’s life? 

One of the best ways that you can help care experienced children is by becoming a foster parent. So many children in the UK need homes right now, and with a worrying decline in you’re guidance, love and commitment to changing a child’s life is needed more than ever.  

Contact our team today on 0800 098 4148, or fill out our simple enquiry form to hear back from a member of our team, who’ll help you to get started on your journey.  

How to Teach Your Foster Child to Swim 

Swimming is a life-saving skill that many of us take for granted. Not only does it allow us to participate in fun water-based activities, but it also offers numerous health benefits. Most importantly, knowing how to swim can prevent drowning if we unexpectedly fall into open water.  

Whether you foster short-term or long-term, teaching your child to swim can enhance their mental well-being, keep them active, and help safeguard them near open water. But how do you go about it? In this article, we dive into the reasons to learn how to swim, explore the barriers children in care may face, and provide tips on accessing swimming lessons in your area.

Learning to swim

Why teach a child to swim?  

What age should a child learn to swim? 

Swimming is part of the National Curriculum. In England and Wales, children are supposed to start learning how to swim between the ages of 7 and 9. However, the number of children who can swim in the UK is declining.  

Nearly a third of children transitioning from primary to secondary school cannot swim. Contributing factors include the COVID-19 pandemic, pool closures, and fewer schools having the resources to facilitate swimming lessons.  

As a result, it’s often left up to parents and caregivers to decide whether or not to enrol children in swimming lessons. This can be influenced by factors such as their financial circumstances, commitments, and their own ability to swim.  

As a foster parent, part of your role is to encourage children in your care to develop life skills and support hobbies that enrich their lives. So, if your foster child can’t swim, here are some reasons to teach them. 

Learning to swim reduces a child’s risk of drowning 

Safeguarding children in your care is fundamental to being a foster parent, and teaching them to swim could help keep them safe. If you live close to a lake or plan on visiting the beach this summer, teaching your foster child to swim could help reduce their risk of drowning.   

According to the Royal Life Saving Society child drowning report, between 2019 and 2023, incidents of children drowning doubled. Of these children, 51 drowned in inland open water and 23 in locations such as the ocean and swimming pools.  

Although learning how to swim will not completely eliminate the risk of drowning, one study stated that it reduced rates of children aged 1 to 4 drowning by 88%.

Swimming can be a fun form of exercise 

Although learning to swim is a skill that can save your child’s life, it’s also a fun way to encourage them to stay active. Swimming is a low-impact, full-body exercise that increases cardiovascular fitness and strengthens the muscles.  

The good thing about swimming for children is that it can easily be made fun, so they don’t feel like they are exercising at all. Many leisure centres provide family fun sessions where children can play with toys and floats. They won’t even realise the positive impact it’s having on their bodies while they’re having so much fun.  

Being able to swim also means they can go to water parks with slides, where they’ll combine swimming with walking up the stairs to get on the rides. They’ll also be able to take part in other water-based activities – such as kayaking, surfing, and paddle boarding – that will improve their fitness. 

Swimming can have therapeutic benefits  

Teaching your child to swim could positively impact their mental health. Like any exercise, swimming releases endorphins that reduce stress, make you feel good, and help you sleep better. It also allows your child to take a break from their phones, screens, and other distractions so they can fully immerse themselves in the moment.  

If your foster child becomes a strong swimmer, they’ll be able to swim in the sea and specific lakes, which means they will also reap the benefits of swimming in nature.  

These all contribute to positive mental well-being and can prevent anxiety and depression. 

Overcoming barriers to swimming for foster children  

Before jumping into the deep end, it’s essential to consider the possible challenges children in foster care may face when learning to swim

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Trusting their swimming instructor 

Many children in care have experienced abuse or neglect. This can impact the way they see the world, making it difficult for them to trust new adults, including swimming teachers.  

In order for a child to feel safe enough to explore the world and try new things, they first need to build a secure relationship with you. At FCA, we use therapeutic foster care to help children understand their experiences and begin their trauma recovery. Our training programme also equips you with the skills and knowledge to build a trusting relationship with the child in your care. 

When your child is ready to begin swimming lessons, you could help them build trust with the swimming instructor by introducing them to each other beforehand. Your child may also feel more secure if you join them in the pool during lessons. Having a trusted adult by their side can provide comfort if they feel scared, frustrated, or uncertain.  

Sensory overload 

When children experience prolonged abuse and neglect, their brains adapt to help them survive. One way they can adapt is through hypervigilance. Hypervigilance allows the child to quickly assess their surroundings for danger, which means they absorb sensory information more easily. As a result, environments like a swimming pool – where the smell of chlorine, water splashing in their face, and crowds flood their senses – can overstimulate them.  

To help your child, consider enrolling them in one-to-one swimming lessons or lessons with a smaller group. Before they start, you could take them to the swimming pool – not to swim, but to allow them to acclimatise to the various sensations. When they’re ready to begin learning to swim, you could start with shorter sessions, gradually increasing time spent in the pool as they become more confident in their surroundings. 

If they don’t like the sensation of water in their hair, ears, or eyes, you could also buy them goggles, earplugs, and a swim hat to make them feel more comfortable.  

Fear of swimming 

Children in care who have moved homes multiple times may have never been swimming before or had lessons interrupted. Some children may have also had a negative experience of swimming, all of which could make them afraid of getting in the pool.   

If you’re thinking about teaching a scared child to swim, talk to them about how they feel about it and find out if there is anything you can do to help them feel less afraid. You could start with small steps, such as watching a swimming lesson together, so they know what to expect before getting into the water themselves.  

Talk to the swimming instructor about your foster child’s worries so they can understand and adapt the lessons to their needs. You could also visit a leisure centre that has a small pool with steps rather than ladders, so they can gradually move into the water at their own pace. If this feels too overwhelming for them, you could begin even smaller by splashing their hands and feet with the pool water.  

Confidence struggles 

Many children in care struggle with their self-esteem and confidence. Don’t forget to praise every small step they take and offer reassurance and empathy if they are scared, frustrated, or unsure.  

You could help boost their confidence by enrolling them in swimming lessons that award attendees with certificates for each milestone they reach, such as the Swim England Awards. Having a certificate to take home and proudly display will also give them a sense of accomplishment and could encourage them to keep going.  

Another way you can support their confidence is by ensuring swimming becomes routine. Knowing when, where, and why things happen can put children at ease. So, whether you teach them to swim yourself or enrol them in lessons, ensure you make it routine by taking them to the same place on the same day and time each week.  

Swimwear  

If a child has experienced sexual abuse, wearing traditional swimwear could make them feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or frightened. So, it’s essential to prioritise their sense of control over their body and clothing choices.  

Let them choose the type of swimwear they’ll feel most comfortable in. They may prefer full-coverage options, such as a long-sleeved swimsuit or a two-piece swim top with trousers. You could also buy them an over-the-head swim towel that they can leave on the poolside and quickly put on if they feel uncomfortable. 

We’re here to help 

If the child in your care refuses to start swimming, that’s okay. You should never force a child to do something they aren’t comfortable with. However, at FCA, we help you understand why they feel the way they do.  

When a child can’t verbally express their thoughts and feelings, they may communicate them through their behaviour instead. Our therapy services and Team Parenting model help you look beyond your child’s behaviour to understand what’s really going on.  

Don’t forget to tap into our supportive community, where you can connect with other foster parents who can offer advice based on their experiences.  

Accessing swimming lessons 

Although many leisure centres are closing due to a rise in operating costs, there are still plenty of swimming lesson providers throughout the UK.  

If you’re fostering a child short-term, some swimming pools provide drop-in swimming lessons that allow you to pay as you go. Your child may also benefit from intensive swimming courses that usually run during the school holidays.  

Some leisure centres and private pools also offer classes specifically for children and young people with sensory needs and disabilities, offering one-to-one sessions with carers and children. You can find out more about swimming lessons in your area on your local council website, through a quick Google search, or using the Swim England swim school directory.  

Paying for Swimming Lessons 

The cost of swimming lessons varies depending on whether they are provided by a local leisure centre or private companies, as well as the class size. For example, a one-to-one swimming lesson with a private company will cost more than a group lesson at a leisure centre.  

When you foster with FCA, you receive a generous fostering allowance, which will help you cover the cost of swimming lessons for the child in your care. You also have access to our foster parent rewards platform, where you can receive discounts on swimwear retailers and health clubs with swimming pools.  

Some local councils offer free or discounted swimming lessons for children in care, so it’s worth contacting yours to find out what they provide. 

Start your fostering journey today 

If you’re considering becoming a foster parent or want to transfer to an agency that’ll be by your side throughout your foster journey, get in touch today. Our friendly team are ready to welcome you into our diverse community and help you transform young lives. 

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Fostering Siblings: Why Keeping Families Together Matters

When children first enter care, their bonds with their siblings may be the only trusting and loving relationships they’ve experienced so far in their young lives. Let’s take a look at why it’s important to prioritise family time for siblings in care.

Siblings

Why are siblings separated? 

Imagine: you’re sitting in the back of a stranger’s car, having been taken away from your home and your family. You’re being driven to a whole new life which you have no say in— new foster parents, a new house, maybe even a new school. You’ve been told that your siblings are staying together, which brings you some comfort, but when you ask where they are or when you’ll be able to see them again, no one seems to have any clear answers. 

Scenarios like this are the sad reality for many children up and down the UK. Siblings who are taken into care are separated for a range of reasons, including: 

  • Younger children in the family being placed for adoption. 
  • In rare cases, if the relationship between the siblings was very difficult, such as if violence was involved.
  • A limited number of foster parents who can provide homes for more than one child at a time— that’s why here at FCA we’re encouraging more people with the space in their homes and in their hearts to consider fostering sibling groups. 

While it is not always in children’s best interests to live together in the same foster home, for most children living with a sibling can be hugely beneficial. Let’s learn more about what makes sibling relationships so important for children in foster care. 

The impact of sibling separation  

Studies show that around 40% of children in foster homes will face sibling separation, a number which is much higher for children in other forms of care such as supported accommodation or shared children’s homes.  

The importance of sibling relationships is perhaps best laid out by the Children’s Commissioner Report into siblings in care, which says: 

‘These relationships can provide the ‘protective effect’ of family… they are often the most loving and important in children’s lives, and can be a source of strength, stability and support throughout the challenges and insecurity they have faced. Being separated from their siblings when placed in care [can have] lifelong repercussions, damaging those relationships in ways that could sometimes never be repaired.’  

When siblings are unable to live together in the same foster home, they may go from seeing each other every day to as little as once or twice per year. While siblings cannot always stay together, having a foster parent who understands the benefits of keeping in good contact with siblings can make all the difference, and children can still benefit from the protective factors associated with sibling bonds even if they cannot live in the same foster home. 

Key benefits of sustaining family bonds  

There is a huge range of benefits which come when foster parents work hard to sustain sibling bonds. These benefits include: 

  1. Emotional connection. Many children who are separated from their families have to forge entirely new relationships from scratch when they enter the care system, on top of dealing with the trauma of separation and any trauma caused by the experiences which led to them entering care in the first place. Having a loved one by their side provides emotional support and someone to lean on.  
  2. Shared experiences. Many children in foster care can struggle to find a sense of belonging. Being with a sibling during a time when everything seems to be changing rapidly can help them to keep a hold of their sense of identity. Having someone by their side who they feel can relate to their experiences can also make the big transitions associated with foster care easier. 
  3. Lifelong connections. Sibling bonds often outlast many of our other relationships, including those with our parents. Disruption to these relationships while children are growing up can cause lasting damage. If a sibling bond is not properly cared for it may begin to wilt and eventually wither, making it much harder for siblings to reconnect in adulthood. By taking the steps to nurture sibling relationships through visits, phone calls or living together, foster parents can help children to maintain lifelong, treasured bonds.   
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Change a child’s life today 

With the help of loving foster parent who understands the need to nurture and protect sibling bonds, the unconditional love shared between siblings can last a lifetime. Are you ready to support siblings in foster care, or could you welcome a child into you home? Contact us today here at FCA to learn more about how you can become the positive change in a child’s life.  

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Am I Ready to Welcome Another Foster Child?

Common concerns about fostering two children or more 

If you’ve reached a stage where you feel ready to welcome another child into your home, it’s important to reflect on your fostering journey so far and consider the impact it could have on you, the child in your care, and any other family members living in your home. Below, we consider the questions you may be asking yourself, and offer guidance to help you make a well thought out decision.

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How will it impact the child already in my care? 

Before committing to welcoming another child into your home, you need to consider the impact it could have on the child already in your care, as they are currently your main priority. Much will depend on the individual needs and experiences of the child. Some children thrive when they have siblings, whereas others may find the change more destabilising and difficult.  

It’s about knowing the child already in your care and considering how they may feel about the change. The best way to find out is by having an honest and open conversation with them about the possibility of a new addition. If they do have any worries, listen and validate their feelings, while reassuring them that your love and care for them will not change.   

For example, if you’ve built a strong bond with the child in your care, they may be worried about how a new foster sibling could affect your relationship with them. It’s essential to remember that children who’ve moved into care have often been let down by trusted adults, making it difficult for them to let their guard down in the first place. The idea of then having to share you with someone else may feel quite scary for them. So offer support and think about how you’ll ensure the child you’re already caring for still feels safe, stable, and loved when welcoming a new foster sibling.  

Can I afford to foster another child? 

It’s natural to be concerned about the cost implications of fostering more than one child. However, when you foster with us at FCA, we ensure that your fostering pay not only covers the essential costs of caring for each child but also rewards you for your hard work and dedication.  

You’ll receive a generous fostering allowance for each child in your care, which currently averages £487 per week per child. Not only that, but due to qualifying care relief, fostering allowances are typically tax-free, leaving you with more in your pocket to spend on building memories with your family. We also offer additional bonuses, and every foster parent at FCA benefits from our STARS scheme, designed to recognise and reward you for transforming young lives.  

Another Foster Child

Is my home big enough for another child? 

Another important thing to think about when considering fostering two children or more is whether you have enough room in your home. We’re often asked, ‘Can a foster child share a room with another child?’ In most cases, the answer is no – every child you foster needs a room to call their own, and here’s why.  

Imagine being a child or young person who has just left everything you know to move in with a new family. You may feel scared, lonely, and confused as you try to process your circumstances and painful memories that have left you living with trauma. 

When you arrive, all you want to do is curl up in a ball on your bed, but you’re sharing a room with another child, making it difficult to relax and feel safe enough to do so. Every time you feel overwhelmed, you have nowhere to retreat to for some time alone and can’t make the space your own because you’re sharing it. 

Children and young people living in care need a space to call their own – somewhere they can surround themselves with things that bring them comfort and retreat if they feel overwhelmed. If you’re fostering siblings who have previously shared a room, it may be in their best interest to share again because it provides familiarity and reassurance. However, when fostering children from different families, you must have a spare bedroom for each child.  

How will I balance my time between each child? 

Regardless of the type of fostering you already do, welcoming a new child into your home will change your family dynamics. Every child is unique, and as they grow, they’ll go through various transitions that may mean they need a little more of your time and attention than the other child you foster. For example, if one of the children you foster experiences bullying at school, they may need more of your attention as you help them navigate the issue.  

However, while you may need to focus on one child a little more at times, you can still take steps to ensure each child receives the time and attention they need. A great way to do this is by including daily moments of individual attention for each child in your routine, such as reading them a bedtime story if they’re young or watching a TV show together if they’re older. This will help strengthen your bond with each child and ensure everyone feels part of the family.  

At FCA, we’ll work with you to make sure the transition from one foster child to two or more doesn’t negatively impact your current family dynamics. Our Team Parenting model ensures the well-being of every child is nurtured and provides a community you can lean on during the transition. 

How will I meet everyone’s needs, including my own? 

If you’re worried about managing everyone’s needs when welcoming another child – including your own – don’t worry. When you foster with FCA, you’re never raising a child alone. 

We are committed to providing therapeutic foster care that supports every aspect of a child’s well-being while always ensuring foster parents feel equipped and confident to meet their changing needs. From our therapy services, which help you develop new ways of responding to each child’s needs, to education support that ensures every child gets the most out of school, we’re by your side every step of the way.  

Our year-round activities, events, and support groups help you stay connected with other foster parents, giving you more people to lean on as your family grows. So, if you want to know what it’s really like to welcome another child into your home, talk to your foster parent friends – they may offer valuable insights and advice to help you navigate this step on your fostering journey.  

  

Get in touch today 

If you’re already fostering and are thinking about welcoming another child into your home, reach out to your local team – they’ll be happy to offer further guidance as you consider this next step. If you’re new to fostering and want to learn more about fostering a child, please get in touch. Our friendly team is ready to support you and answer any questions you may have.

“Fostering is by far the best and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.”

Alice, who has an 11-year-old daughter of her own, began fostering in 2023 after a divorce upended her life, and she wanted a fresh start. Here, she shares how her fostering journey unfolded, the positive impact it continues to have on her daughter and how the support she receives from FCA has made fostering as a single parent the most rewarding thing she’s ever done.

New beginnings

Everyone’s journey into fostering is different. Some foster parents may have lived in foster care as children, been part of a fostering family, or met other foster parents, stirring up a desire to help vulnerable children themselves.  For some, it can be that life has taken them in an unexpected direction, leading to new opportunities and a fresh outlook on life. This was the case for Alice, she said:  “After a divorce, my life completely changed, and I wanted a fresh start. I moved to where I am now and ended up being a PA for someone in the area who was fostering. Part of my job was to help look after the children. I’d always thought, ‘Oh, I don’t think I could ever do that because how could I give a child back?’ But actually, in reality, it made me realise that, yeah, I could do it. And I wanted to do it.”

Sharing the journey as a family

When you foster, your whole family fosters. So, when Alice began seriously considering fostering, she knew she had to run the decision by her daughter, Alice said: “My daughter was really pro-fostering. She spent a lot of time with children my friend was fostering, helping look after them. I remember sitting down one day and saying, ‘How would you feel if we did something like that?’ And she was like, ‘I really want to!’”
“I think she was just dying to be some sort of big sister in whatever kind of capacity that looked like – whether it was biological or not. I think she just wanted to have someone she could help look after. So yeah, she was very proactive about wanting to do it.”

Fostering has positively impact Alice’s daughter, who has embraced her role as big sister to the young boy they’re fostering, Alice said: “They have such a good relationship. So it’s very much like a brother, sister dynamic. He goes to her for Cuddles and as soon as he sees her, his face lights up and she runs over to him and they play.”

“She absolutely adores him, she really does. She tells everybody about him, she even said to me this morning that when she tells people about him she says, ‘I don’t say Foster brother anymore. He’ll forever be my little brother, whether he’s with us or not.’ Which I think is lovely. That means she’d fully accepted him.”  “I think it has definitely taught her about patience and realising that other people need me as much as she might need me. She’s one of the most empathetic people.”

Choosing FCA

Once Alice decided to foster, she researched the application process, considering whether to apply with the local authority or an independent fostering agency, she said: “I ended up doing a deep dive on the web. I remember putting in things about fostering, fostering applications and trying to decide whether to go via the local council or a private company. I wanted to make sure that if I was going to do this, I was going do it right and have the support in order to do it right.  I was drawn to FCA’s website, and then from there, I sent a message on the website and started the ball rolling pretty much straight away.”

Alice wanted to join a fostering agency that truly supports foster parents on their journey, and FCA has not let her down, she explained: “Support has been amazing. My supervising social worker is so lovely – the job wouldn’t be half as easy if I didn’t have someone like her in my corner.”

“One major thing for me is that my daughter has got to feel comfortable because it’s not just about me, and lots of people visit my house for different reasons. When the social worker comes, she makes a fuss of my daughter. She always wants to speak to her and see how she is.”

“I go to a monthly support group with other local people who foster in my area. I attend courses, and we have attended days out with our little boy. We’ve gone to a farm and things like that. So you can meet other children. I just feel like, support-wise, I can’t criticise in any way.”

Treasured moments

The special moments in fostering often come from helping a child overcome their fears and persevering until they feel safe and confident enough to do something that once scared them. Alice shared one of her favourite moments: “One of the best moments of fostering would be the little boy that I have. He’s nonverbal, and he really didn’t like the bath. I don’t think he was used to being cleaned or anything like that. He used to screech and screech and screech. It took six weeks of me standing next to the bath with him, trying to tempt him to even sit in it.”

“I tried everything – you name it. I even started doing squats. We’d sit down next to the bath, and we’d all be there doing squats and things like that. I remember one day thinking, ‘We’re going to master this today’. And I don’t know why – I just felt it. I decided to make it fun and said, ‘Go on, you can do it!’ He thought it was funny, and then he did it.”

“He sat in the bath, and he played for over an hour. He didn’t just sit there terrified – he played. I cried, my mum cried, and my daughter cried. We all cheered. It was such a big moment for him. Now, it’s his favourite time of the day. As soon as he comes in from school, the first thing he wants to do is go in the bath.”

Alice’s advice

If you’re thinking about fostering, Alice shared some advice for prospective foster parents, she said:

“Do a bit of a deep dive into it. If you know anybody who fosters, ask questions. It’s important to understand how you’ll deal with something because it won’t be all sunshine and rainbows.”

“Make a list of what you’re willing to accept because there will be tough times. What can you manage? What would you be OK with? Would you want to start toilet training again? Or would you prefer an older child without that side of it?”

“It’s about being honest with yourself, making a list of things, and just gathering as much information as you physically can to make an informed decision on what works for you.”

Could you foster?

If you’d like more information about becoming a foster parent with FCA or the support we offer single foster parents, we’d love to hear from you. Enquire with us today to learn more, or read more stories from real-life foster parents about their experiences.

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What makes a great foster parent: Lesley’s Story

We’re celebrating the achievements of Lesley, one of our foster mums who has been fostering for 22 years. In that time, Lesley has provided loving care to almost 200 children through different types of fostering, including long term care and short term care.  

A lifelong dream

Since she was a young teen, Lesley’s dream was to become a foster parent. She said: “I remember watching Band Aid when I was a teen, and that had a massive effect on me. I was so upset seeing how many children out there needed help, and I said then and there that when I grew up, I wanted to become a foster parent. Fast forward and life happened; I was married with three children of my own when a friend at work asked me what my ideal job would be. I told him about that long-ago dream of becoming a foster parent. He encouraged me to apply, and I’m so glad he gave me that push I needed.”

During her application, Lesley had some questions about who can foster. She said: “When the fostering advisor over the phone said that he was happy to move me forward with the process, I was so excited. I couldn’t believe that I would even be considered, to be honest. All that time I’d been held back by the belief that, even though I was so passionate about fostering, a fostering agency wouldn’t want someone like me as I’d had a difficult childhood.”

The power of empathy

Lesley’s personal experiences were far from the hindrance she worried they might be in her fostering journey. In fact, Lesley uses her own experiences to inform the way she helps the children and young people in her care. She said: “I’d worried that the challenges I’d faced growing up might make me unsuitable to be a foster parent, but in truth it’s been the opposite. I have a lot of empathy for the experiences of the children I care for, and I understand how they feel about certain things. It’s really all about being able to put yourself in their shoes. My own experiences have helped me to understand how some things are just not important to a child when they’re going through something traumatic. You can’t expect them to do well in school and have great manners, because all their energy is being consumed by trying to navigate through so much trauma.”

Lesley champions therapeutic parenting as a great way to connect with young people. She said: “I’m a big believer in a therapeutic, gentle approach to parenting. When a child’s behaviour is challenging, they aren’t trying to hurt you. It’s really not about the foster parents, it’s about what they’re going through. They don’t want to upset you. They don’t want to break the rules. They’re just really struggling and need extra support.”

Lifelong connections

Lesley has made many lifelong connections with the children she has cared for over the years. Her relationship with her youngest son, who is now an integral part of the family, is particularly significant. “My son came to me as a fostering emergency when he was just five months old. Initially this was only meant to be for a very short period of time. I vividly remember picking him up one day and singing ‘You are my Sunshine’ to him. He was looking up at me, just looking up into my eyes while I sang to him, and there was this instant love. My husband and I adopted him when he was 20 months old, and our family has been growing stronger together ever since.”

Though Lesley has provided many different types of foster care over the years, she specialises in fostering teenagers. She is currently caring for three young people, with the eldest staying with her in a ‘When I am ready’ arrangement.

“I feel like my strengths lie in caring for teenagers,” Lesley said. “I feel like my husband and I can really communicate with them. They’re also less taxing physically than younger children are which is something to consider as you get a bit older, and you can really have a laugh together and help these kids at a critical time. I keep in touch with lots of the kids we’ve cared for, including our first ever foster child, who has a great relationship with my son. Another young man who I looked after comes to visit every Christmas, which is just lovely. He says, ‘I can’t believe I didn’t want to live with you, and now I’d give anything to be back!’

Lessons from fostering

With over 20 years of fostering experience, Lesley has some fantastic advice for potential foster parents. She said: “Advice I’d give to new foster parents is this: firstly, pick your battles. Secondly, try and have a sense of humour, and don’t take things personally. Thirdly, be there for the child. Show them that you’re always on their side, and that you’ll be there to pick up the pieces when they do make mistakes. Don’t give up on them. Some kids have been rejected by everyone in their life, and it takes time for them to trust and feel safe with you. Show them that, no matter what happens, you’re still going to be there for them. That’s what makes a great foster parent.”

Fostering is an absolute roller coaster of emotions, and to be honest, there are probably as many low moments as there are high. That’s something to be prepared for if you’re considering fostering. You have to have inner strength. As a whole, dedicating my life to fostering has been really rewarding. I feel very, very lucky to do this work. I get emotional just thinking about it! I love what I do, and I feel proud of myself for doing it. I know teenage me would be so proud of what we’ve achieved.

Could you foster?

Lesley is a real shining light in our community, and we’re so inspired by her story and by all the foster parents just like her working hard each day to help children thrive.  Are you inspired by Lesley’s story and considering becoming a foster parent? If you’re interested in fostering, we’d love to hear from you. Enquire with us today to learn more, or read more stories from real-life foster parents about their experiences.

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New Year, New Beginnings: Could you Foster?

The New Year is a time in which all of us take time to evaluate our priorities and think about what we want out of the future. If you’re looking for a way to do something amazing in your community and change the lives of others, there’s no better time than now to consider becoming a foster parent with FCA.  

There are thousands of children up and down the UK who are currently waiting to become part of a loving family. These children have often experienced trauma, and through no fault of their own have been thrust into a life of uncertainty. By becoming a foster parent, you can become a pillar of security and safety for a child who feels they have no one to turn to, and no one to trust. 

How fostering changes lives

We asked a handful of our foster parents to share their experiences of what makes fostering an incredibly rewarding career and lifestyle choice. Our foster parents come from a range of backgrounds; some are single, others are in relationships. Some have fully dedicated their working lives to fostering, whereas others also choose to work a flexible job alongside caring for children at home. Our foster parents represent all cultures, ethnicities, faiths, genders, and sexualities.  

Everyone is encouraged to think about the difference they could make through fostering—we hope the stories of our current foster parents will help inspire you to make the change. Learn more about who can foster.  

“Each child that I’ve fostered has taught me something about myself, and they’ve taught me so much about how to help them. It’s also brought back my playfulness; I do lots of things with the children that I probably wouldn’t have done if I wasn’t fostering – they’ve enriched my life massively.” 

– Alison, single foster mum 

  

“Fostering has enriched our lives. To see the children experience new things is priceless.” 

-Phil and Stig, foster dads 

 

“Fostering is a lovely, pleasurable job. Yes, there are ups and downs, but the children we welcome into our care are all from different backgrounds. You’ve got to try and see beyond where they’ve come from. You must treat each child as an individual.” 

– Elaine, foster mum 

 

 “Our most cherished fostering moments involve looking back at all the photos from beginning to end and seeing the transformation. Seeing the change in the children we care for is truly special. The difference from start to finish is remarkable.’ 

– Sarah and Paul, foster couple 

 

“I would say to anybody who is thinking of fostering, that no matter how small the changes, you are making a difference. Always know in your heart that if you are doing your best, you are making a difference to a young person’s life. They may not realise now, but their experiences will last a lifetime.”  

– Debbie and Geoff, foster couple 

The benefits of fostering

Fostering can be hugely beneficial for both children and the caring and dedicated individuals who step up to become their foster parents. As a foster parent with FCA, you’ll benefit in so many ways: 

  • You’ll be changing the lives of children
  • You’ll be a pillar of support in your community
  • You’ll be working to reunite families
  • You’ll benefit from our generous fostering allowance and rewards
  • You’ll likely pay no tax on your allowance
  • You’ll have the support of professionals, including your own dedicated Supervising Social Worker 
  • You’ll benefit from our huge range of support for you, your own children and the children you care for, including support groups, free family days out and our exclusive discounts scheme 

Discover more about fostering 

Eager to learn more about what it’s like to be a foster parent? Check out our library of personal stories from our foster parents, or learn more about the process of becoming qualified to foster.  

Or, if you’re feeling ready to begin your journey, enquire with us today! 

Celebrating children’s achievements

FCA Yorks and Lincs Annual Achievements Day Event: A Celebration of Success

Our Annual Achievements Day event was once again a highlight of the social calendar for FCA Yorks and Lincs, bringing together children, foster parents, and the regional team to celebrate the incredible accomplishments of children of all ages. The day held at a fantastic venue was filled with joy, laughter and inspiration as nominees were recognised and awarded for their achievements.

The event featured heart warming moments captured in photos, including children and foster parents dancing, staff enjoying the Macarena, and Participation Officer Sarah meeting British former professional boxer Johnny Nelson.

We extend our gratitude to everyone who made this day so special. The achievements of these incredible children remind us why this event is so important. Here’s to celebrating even more successes this year!

Here is some feedback from the day:

“Thank you to everyone for an amazing day at the Achievement Awards. It’s been wonderful hearing and reading about all the amazing children nominated and celebrating their success. Such inspirational speakers and a fabulous venue – the girls thought it was a palace!”

“Thankyou for a lovely day at the achievement day. It was lovely to celebrate all of our incredible children. S was so happy with her award and we are so proud of her and our two very new family member who only arrived late last night they cooed amazingly well and in true S style took them straight under her wing and not forgetting our fabulous teens who were apparently to cool to attend. Also a massive thankyou to Helen from the Mansfield team for taking us and bringing us home and helping with the LOTS of trips to the toilet!”

There’s always a need for more foster parents, as so many children in the UK are in need of the love and protection of a safe and nurturing home. If you’d love to join FCA and help us to transform the lives of children up and down the country, call us on 0800 098 4156 or fill in our enquiry form to become part of the difference which lasts a lifetime.

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5 Reasons to Participate in the Big Sing Off

You may have already heard of The Big Sing Off, but if you haven’t, it’s our annual choir competition, similar to the X Factor and Last Choir Standing. Children, young people, foster parents, and staff come together for an unforgettable day of friendly competition, entertainment and fun.  

Our choirs start rehearsing months before the event in preparation for their performances. So, if you’re wondering whether you’d like to be involved next year, it’s time to start thinking about it now! Here are five reasons to join your region’s choir and participate in The Big Sing Off 2025.  

Big Sing Off

Why participate in The Big Sing Off? 

Meet new people 

The Big Sing Off is a fantastic opportunity to meet new people who share similar experiences to you. If you join a choir, you’ll meet regularly to practice your chosen song. On the day of the event, children and young people in foster care from all over the UK will travel to the Big Sing Off location, giving you plenty of chances to make new friends.  

Build your confidence 

Being part of a choir at The Big Sing Off means performing in front of an audience. While this may seem daunting, it could actually help you overcome stage fright and build your confidence. This experience will not only benefit you during school presentations but will also prepare you to ace job interviews in the future. 

Additionally, if you plan to pursue a career in the entertainment industry, performing in front of an audience will provide valuable practice and insight into what it may be like. 

Visit new places 

The Big Sing Off takes place in a new location every year, giving you opportunities to travel to new places and experience the specialities of the local community. This year, FCA Cymru won the bid to host the event in Wales. Hosts were dressed in traditional Welsh clothing and provided entertainment and activities based on their theme ‘The Greatest Showman’ and ‘Legends’. From circus-themed activities and workshops to candyfloss machines and magic mirror photo booths, each host region ensures you have a memorable experience. 

Have your say 

The Big Sing Off is all about you, so there are plenty of opportunities for you to have your say and showcase your creative ideas. This includes: 

  • Bid video – Children and young people from each region decide on their chosen theme before creating a video bid to host the event.  
  • Logo competition – every year, we run a logo competition for The Big Sing Off to reflect the year’s theme. The winning logo is then featured in the programme, leaflets, flags and more.  
  • Activities – The activities, entertainment, and food for the event are chosen by our children and young people. If you have an idea, we will listen and do our best to make it happen. 

Enjoy yourself 

Ultimately, The Big Sing Off is about having fun! Organisers Lisa and Sebu spend months bringing your ideas to life and ensuring everyone has an incredible day. The event is always full of surprises; this year, Britain’s Got Talent stars Afrikan Warriors wowed the audience with their acrobatics, and Welsh celebrities recorded good luck messages. At the end of the event, you’ll have a sense of accomplishment for performing in front of hundreds of people and memories for life.  

So, if you’d like to join your region’s choir, talk to your participation officer and start warming up those vocal cords. 

Tips for Your First Christmas Together as a Foster Family

Regardless of the type of fostering you provide, you’ll likely celebrate Christmas with a foster child at some point in your fostering journey. You may already have a few ideas up your sleeve, but if you need a little extra guidance, here are our tips to help you prepare for Christmas. 

Our top tips on how to prepare for Christmas 

Christmas is firmly on the horizon, and you may be visualising beautiful decorations, freshly baked gingerbread men and stockings full of presents. But, when preparing for the first Christmas with your foster child, whose images of Christmas could be very different, there are many things to consider. But we’re here to help you prepare so you’re ready for any challenges that may arise during this magical season. 

Supporting a Foster Child at Christmas

Recognise the impact of Christmas on your foster child 

Christmas, although a joyous time of year for many children, can be incredibly challenging for foster children. If they’ve only recently moved into care, this could be their first Christmas without their family. Christmas could also trigger distressing memories for foster children who’ve experienced difficult family dynamics, abuse and neglect. They also have to navigate the depictions of happy families in Christmas films and questions at school about their Christmas plans.  

So, when you’re preparing for Christmas, it’s essential to recognise the impact Christmas could have on your foster child’s well-being. Their emotions may be heightened, and their behaviour could change, so they’ll need your help to guide them through the festive season.  

At FCA, our therapists are on hand to support you in understanding the link between your foster child’s behaviour and their past experiences. This will enable you to respond in a therapeutic way throughout the festive period and beyond so they can heal from their trauma. 

Ask for their input 

Make getting prepared for Christmas a family affair. Including your foster child in the planning will show them that you value their input and want them to feel part of the family. It could also help ease anxiety about what will happen on Christmas day and during the lead-up because they’ll know what to expect. Details you could discuss with your foster child include: 

  • Traditions: Find out if they hold any Christmas traditions close to their heart and include some in your plans. For example, they may watch the same Christmas movie or attend a carol service every year.  
  • Food: Let them know what’s usually on the menu at Christmas and see if they have any preferences. They may not be used to a full-on Christmas dinner, selecting a simple alternative instead.  
  • Decorations: They could help you choose the style, colour and positioning of decorations around the house. They might like to add some festive cheer to their bedroom or keep things very simplistic if it’s triggering.  
  • Activities: From Christmas arts and crafts to ice skating, give them some activity choices and allow them to select their favourites. This way, you’ll only plan activities they’re comfortable participating in.  
  • Visitors: If you’re planning to have guests over the Christmas period, check to see if they’re okay with this and ensure they know exactly who’ll be visiting. It may be easier to visit friends and family at their homes instead so you can leave if it gets too much for your foster child.  

 

Stick to their routine 

Taking breaks from your usual routine can be refreshing; however, for children in care, a consistent routine can provide stability and a sense of safety. While it might be tempting to disrupt this routine for a couple of weeks, doing so could disorient your foster child and further heighten their emotions.  

So, during the Christmas holidays, stick to a familiar routine; for example, continue to have meals at the same time every day and adhere to their usual bedtimes. You could also include activities that are good for your foster child’s well-being, such as nature walks and quiet times where they can read or write their thoughts down in a journal. 

Have realistic expectations 

If you want to organise lots of festive fun, that’s brilliant, but Christmas can be particularly emotive for your foster child, and even if they say they’re okay with your plans now, they may change their mind later.  

It’s important to manage your expectations and be prepared for sudden changes to your plans. When discussing Christmas activities with your foster child, reassure them that it’s okay for them to change their mind. This could help alleviate any worries they may have about disappointing you. 

Remember, there is nothing wrong with having a quiet, calm and cosy Christmas. In fact, it could be the perfect opportunity to build a closer bond with your foster child. The main thing is that they feel loved, nurtured, and safe. 

Help them prepare for family time  

If your foster child has contact arrangements with their family, they may see them over Christmas and want to take some gifts or cards. So, consider going Christmas shopping together or spending an afternoon making festive cards.  

After your foster child sees their family, they may need some quiet time to reflect as the reality of not being with them on Christmas Day sinks in. If family time doesn’t go to plan, listen to their experience without judgment while offering comfort and support. 

Don’t go overboard on gifts 

It can be easy to get carried away when Christmas shopping, especially if you keep finding things you think your foster child would appreciate. However, receiving too many gifts on Christmas day could be overwhelming, and your foster child may not know how to respond. To avoid going overboard, ask your foster child to write a Christmas wish list and focus on purchasing a small number of meaningful presents instead. If you’re struggling with Christmas gift ideas, talk to other foster parents in our community. 

Gifts are only a small part of the Christmas experience, and it won’t be long until your foster child outgrows toys, games and clothes. So rather than putting too much pressure on yourself to find the perfect gifts, concentrate on enjoying each other’s company and creating positive memories.  

Look after your own well-being 

When you’re busy making Christmas plans, it can be easy to overlook your own well-being, and you could end up experiencing burnout. Make an effort to allocate time for yourself, even if it’s just having a nice hot bath every evening or going for a walk on your own. These small things can give you the headspace to organise your thoughts and feel ready to take on the next challenge.  

Don’t forget to tap into our support for foster parents. Whether you need guidance, advice, or just a listening ear, your dedicated social worker and our 24/7 helpline are only a phone call away. At FCA, we also host activities throughout the year, so contact your local centre to see what they’ve got planned for Christmas and share your experiences with other foster families. 

Christmas with foster child

Foster a child over Christmas 

If you don’t already foster and are considering fostering a child or have experience and want to switch to an agency committed to making a real difference in the lives of children, contact us today. At FCA, we provide you with the support, training, and resources you need to give children a happy childhood. Together, we can help children in care build positive memories, including Christmases full of love, laughter and joy. 

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“Nothing compares to just how rewarding fostering is. There’s nothing like it.”

In 2018, Essex dad Steve stopped working to pursue his dream of fostering children who need a loving home.

After a long career Steve closed a number of businesses in 2018 and with his free time decided to foster, something he’d always wanted to do.

Steve said: “I’ve always been involved in children’s activities, from school governance to teaching first aid. I’ve also been interested in special educational needs and disabilities as our birth son has Aspergers.”

Alongside wife Maria, Steve is fostering two brothers aged 12 and 16 who have been with them  for the last four years. Steve continued: “We were approved to foster in 2019 as the time was right for us then. So I stopped working. My wife had started working after being a stay-at-home mum and raising our son so all in all it’s been a total role reversal for us.”

Steve’s foster children arrived just five days before lockdown as an emergency placement which was due to last four weeks, Steve said: “It was definitely a baptism of fire being thrown into lockdown so quickly, but we formed strong bonds as a family and really got to know each other. Now the boys don’t want to leave.”

Since their arrival, Steve and Maria have prioritised communication to help the boys come to terms with their pasts and be able to move forward, Steve said: “I’m a talker. I will talk about anything and have those really difficult conversations. In the beginning they weren’t able to talk about anything let alone what they’ve been through but now I can’t get them to stop talking!

“I look at how far these boys have come since they came to stay with us. They are totally different, well-balanced young men.”

Steve is also a foster parent rep for FCA Eastern across Essex, Norfolk, and Suffolk, to provide support to other foster parents in the community.

He credits his ‘great support network of friends and incredibly supportive family’ with welcoming the foster children into their lives and making them feel like part of the family, something he thinks is essential for those thinking about fostering.

Latest government statistics show that across Essex, Suffolk, and Norfolk, there are 3,360 children in care, so more foster parents are urgently needed.

Steve encourages anyone who thinks they could make a difference to find out more, he said: “If one person hears my story or understands the difference they can make then that’s huge.

“One person might not seem a lot but that’s a huge difference to a child’s life. Fostering can definitely be frustrating, but nothing compares to just how rewarding it is. There’s nothing like it.”

There’s always a need for more foster parents, as so many children in the UK are in need of the love and protection of a safe and nurturing home. If you’d love to join FCA and help us to transform the lives of children up and down the country, call us on 0800 098 4156 or fill in our enquiry form to become part of the difference which lasts a lifetime.

 

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Joanne and Martyn’s Story

Meet Joanne and Martyn  Shaw from Wigan who have been foster parents with FCA since 2010.  The couple have also been carer ambassadors for FCA, talking to potential foster carers across the UK and recommending FCA to those who are thinking about fostering.

Martyn and Joanne open up about their fostering experiences and what led them to dedicate their lives to children and young people in need. Martyn said:

‘We initially discussed fostering when we found out that we couldn’t have children naturally. Before we started looking into it we talked it through with some of our friends. Not everyone was as supportive as we hoped they would be, however, a few good friends came on the journey with us and still support us today.

We began our search by looking on the internet and contacting a few agencies who came out to visit us. We weren’t very impressed by the support offered by them and expressed our concerns to Joanne’s cousin Maria who fostered at the time. She advised that we get in touch with her fostering agency FCA.

We contacted FCA and immediately they put us at ease. They were very friendly, upfront and honest answering all of our questions and concerns. From the get-go the entire process felt stress-free, which was great, a weight lifted from our shoulders.

Before fostering we both worked full time. Once approved as carers with FCA I left my job to foster full time whilst Joanne continued to work. Having recently decided to look after more than one child, however, she decided to focus on a career in fostering too and even went back into education to study Social Work at the University of Central Lancashire to strengthen her knowledge.’’

The couple speak about some of the children they have supported and looked after, and reflect on reactions they have received when talking about being foster carers. Martyn said:

‘We started our journey with FCA looking after a four-week-old baby for three months, following this short-term placement we then looked after an 11-year-old who stayed with us on a long-term fostering basis for six years until he turned 18 and has now moved on to independent living. Now that we have been approved to look after more than one child at a time we have three children staying with us who are eight, nine and ten years old.

We’ve experienced some really mixed reactions when people find out we foster. Some are curious and think we do a great job and others can be quite insensitive. We’ve been called stupid for looking after children who have challenging behaviour and some look at us as if to say fostering isn’t a proper job. We pay no notice to this as it just goes to show the lack of awareness amongst people when it comes to fostering. It’s this ignorance that makes Joanne and I feel strongly about our role as ambassadors for FCA shouting about the wonderful work we do for children and young people.

We’ve experienced so many wonderful memories from over the years. Our best fostering moment has got to be seeing our last placement leave school with GCSE level A* qualifications including a 99.9% attendance rate over the 5-year period. It’s moments like these that make it all worthwhile. We have however, faced some challenges over the years.

Our first 18 months fostering was particularly challenging. Joanne became unwell with cancer around the time that we started looking after a teenager with difficult behaviour. From not following house rules (like most teenagers) to making unfair complaints against us our long-term placement threw every challenge he could think of at us. This really tested us as a family and as carers but we got through it together and in the end it all worked out just fine.

Our experience as foster carers has been very rewarding. For example, seeing that the young boy we’ve just referred to fostering has turned into a well-balanced and established young man whom we have stayed in close contact with since he left our care has made all the hard work completely worth it. Not to mention the fact that we have had the best support from FCA over the years too.

Right from the get go during our assessment to become carers, through to training, support groups and full support and understanding during Joanne’s illness, FCA has been outstanding every step of the way.

If we had any advice to give people considering becoming foster carers we would tell them to go for it. Ask as many questions as you need to and speak to other carers and you’ll soon find out what a great job it is. It’s a reward you’ll never fully understand unless you try it for yourself, it’s worth doing!’

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Fostering gives me the opportunity to do something worthwhile

Seeing first hand the support and training FCA offer as her mum and dad have been fostering with FCA for a long time she knew FCA Northern Ireland would be the right fit for her.

“I considered fostering after I was the support person to my parents and had lived alongside foster brothers and sisters. I was also a resource worker for FCA for two years and had worked with lots of different children and young people. I realised even though I would be a younger foster parent I could offer a safe and supportive home, and that I already had lots of knowledge and insight. My partner and I discussed it for a few years and when we felt like it was the right time for us I contacted FCA for more information.  I always knew it was something that I really wanted to do alongside being an artist and to care for someone gives me great satisfaction every day.

I have gained lots of different experiences from living alongside foster brothers and sisters over the years. Every child or young person comes with their own unique background and trauma and each child or young person will process and express this in many different ways whether is it emotional or behavioural. Staying alongside them through great days, fun days, good days, bad days, hard days just being there with them will have a huge impact in the long run.
There are challenges, changing your living situation to accommodate a child or young person with potential difficult behaviours and needs. Having to take a step back from your social life and spending time with family and friends outside and inside the home to support the stresses, anxiety and needs of the foster child in your care. Forward planning for events such as friend’s birthdays, trips away, friend’s wedding, date nights to spend as a couple would always be done a month or two in advance.  But seeing the young person in my care develop emotional and social interactions, which are now achieved on a daily basis and overcoming many fears anxiety is so rewarding. Getting to see them have their own identity and making decisions for themselves to become much more confident and self-assured for the future. Also achieving GCSE qualifications and currently working through A Levels with future goals of attending university is invaluable.

If you are thinking about fostering begin by researching and finding out lots of information, always keep an open mind and making sure to have a great support network of friends and family to rely on. Attend information days and talk to other foster parents if possible to get a better understanding of what is really involved.  My advice to new foster parents is as a younger foster parent I would say that having someone close to you that you can rely on as your support person is a great help, especially for your social life if you have a friend’s birthday night out, or a date night as a couple planning in advance is very helpful for everyone. I always attend training and support group when I can and reaching out to supervising social worker when needed is very important.

Fostering at this age gives me the opportunity to do something worthwhile, if you have the time, dedication, space and understanding to support a child or young person then becoming a foster parent will give you great satisfaction every day”.

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I foster with FCA and my daughter does too

Mum Sharon has been happily married for 39 years and together with her husband have two birth children (who are now adults) and two small dogs.

“I have been fostering for over six years.  We began with Kinship Care of my two nieces, once this ended and the girls were grown up, we began really looking into foster care.  When my husband retired we became aware of the need for foster parents and we felt we now had the free time to dedicate to other children who needed care and support.

We started by looking online at the options available and approached FCA Northern Ireland to find out more information and had a home visit the next day.

Friends and family were very supportive and understood the positives and negatives due to Kinship Care arrangements we had in place before.  There were also family discussions with our two birth children to get their approval, this went extremely well and both of our children were ready to help and support us whenever needed.

FCA have support available 24/7, a great training programme that is enjoyable and interactive, support groups and a therapeutic fostering approach to helping looked after children in care with wrap round team parenting, child therapy and respite.  We have brilliant support from our supervising social worker and 24/7 emergency on-call if needed.

As a foster parent there are challenges, fitting in some time to ourselves can be difficult.  There is also managing challenging behaviours and working through the hard days, always remembering to not take anything personally. Dealing with situations that you may not normally be used to.  But on the other side fostering brings so many rewarding moments in fact too many for me to mention but the ones that stick out the most would be the FCA choir competition at Titanic Belfast where our young person sang a solo part and the choir won first place. Also achieving GCSE and A-Level Results for their future.

When my daughter Lauren said she wanted to foster too I was happy and proud, I knew she would be very capable as she contributed and worked very closely alongside us fostering from the beginning.  From Lauren’s previous experience as our support person and living alongside foster brothers and sisters she already knew the ups and downs and had a good insight into what becoming a foster parent entailed.  We are always there for each other to offer advice and support.

I would recommend new foster parents attend training sessions, it is very beneficial.  Going to local support groups gives a much better understanding and support from other more experienced foster parents who can pass on great advice. Reaching out to your supervising social worker when needed as they will always be there to listen and can give advise when you may not be sure what to do.

If you feel like you want to give something back then fostering is a great choice”.

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