Ian and Andrew’s Story

Archived: Posted February 22, 2017

‘’One day we would like to help young people who may be struggling with their gender or sexuality. ‘’

After adopting their son Nathan (14) nearly six years ago Andrew (59) and Ian (57) from Canary Wharf in East London are expanding their family and about to embark on their fostering journey with Foster Care Associates (FCA). The couple who have been together for 35 years open up about why they want to be foster carers Andrew explains: ‘Since adopting our son Nathan six years ago Ian and I have always thought about fostering.

‘’As a child who experienced foster care first hand, Nathan has often suggested that we would make good foster carers. We have the room in our home, and hearts, and we both have really flexible jobs that allow us to work from home meaning that we’re always around to support the young person in our care.

The couple talk about the process they went through to find the right fostering agency for them. Andrew said: ‘’We spoke to a few local fostering agencies, as well as our local authority, but nothing seemed to click. We didn’t feel that spark, and the people we were talking to seemed to care more about the agency than the children and carers so we continued our search.

How FCA have helped

‘’When we came across FCA we instantly had a better feeling about everything. They seemed to have the right balance of care for both the children as well as their foster carers. Our confidence was immediately reassured thanks to FCA which was really important to us as we knew that fostering would be different to adoption and we would need all the help, support and guidance available to us.

‘’Before we committed to anything we had a chat with our friends and family who were all really supportive of our decision to foster. Although there are all sorts of ‘horror stories’ out there they all believed we had done a great job raising our son Nathan so they really encouraged us to take the leap. Nathan was really comfortable with it too. We’ve kept him in the loop every step of the way.’’

As a same sex couple Andrew and Ian experienced no problems or difficulties applying to be foster carers. Andrew said: ‘’We have experienced no challenges whatsoever in the process of applying to be foster carers, thanks to a very supportive fostering agency. We feel we have a lot to offer another child or young person. We have a very happy home and hope that one day we get the chance to help young people who may be struggling with their gender or sexuality. ‘’

Andrew concludes with offering some advice to members of the LGBTQ community who might be thinking about becoming a foster carer. He said: ‘’ If you’re thinking about fostering I’d say go for it! Do the initial research and remember you don’t need to commit to anything until you are completely sure of your decision.

‘’You’ll need to find an agency that completely suits you and your needs. Don’t go with the first option. Do your research and you’ll find the right match. That’s what Ian and I did and FCA have been completely on the ball. They are extremely professional and have a great response rate. ‘’ 

‘’We are still in the early stages but hopefully once we pass our assessments and complete the process of becoming foster carers with FCA we’ll be able to change a child’s or young person’s life for the better.’’

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