Teaching Them To Fish…

Archived: Posted May 3, 2013

Core Assets Fostering - fishing blogYou know the saying ‘Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Ever thought about  how true it is, especially when it comes to teaching children.

Every parent wants to do their best for their children, to keep them safe and to encourage them to grow into confident, happy adults. But are we giving them chance to grow or do we risk hindering their progress if we’re too quick to jump to their aid, to offer the answers to homework queries that they’re quite capable of answering themselves if they put a bit of effort in? Even though it might be quicker and easier for us to do it, maybe we need to give them a chance to actually attempt it for themselves first.

So does being encouraging in this way mean that your children are happier and better prepared for life? And is it any different for a foster carer? Does being a carer change the way you deal with situations? Probably not. Just as we should do with our own children, foster carers are encouraged to help the children in their care to learn about budgeting and the value of money. You may give them pocket money to help them learn how to manage their own finances on a simple scale. Perhaps you encourage them to save a bit too.

Lucie is a care leaver and support worker for care leavers between the ages of 16 and 18. She understands from personal experience the benefits of learning the basics:

“…it’s so tough out there, and many young people in care don’t really have somebody who’s been there throughout to teach them about these little basic skills. Like learning how to wash your clothes, you know, what to do, how to even do your ironing. A lot of people actually don’t know how to do that. It’s things like the basics, like learning how to clean your house, that are really important.”

Teaching your own or looked after children to be more self-sufficient and independent will benefit them in later life. Showing them how to do some basic tasks will ultimately help their confidence, boost their self-esteem and give them the skills to help them lead independent lives.

So why not give them some responsibility? Let them attempt things for themselves, ask them to help you around the house. Start small and take the time to teach them how to change a duvet cover, to empty the dishwasher, to help you prepare dinner or even just to lay the table. Though they might not feel a sense of achievement straight away (and they might moan a bit when asked!) it’s one more thing they’ve learned on their journey to adulthood.

So though it might not seem like the most important thing in the world to impart the secrets of a sparkling bathroom or to make sure you’ve got enough cash to buy that item you really want, it’s worth remembering that you are helping them. You’re teaching them to fish!

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