Taking the biscuit…

Archived: Posted May 16, 2013

Core Assets Fostering - Taking the BiscuitIt’s a funny feeling, having a stranger in your home. Welcoming them into your life. But it’s something you’ve got to get used to if you’re going to be a foster carer.

The day the fostering advisor came to visit was like none other. It was our first face-to-face contact with someone from the agency. The first link in that chain of events that would eventually lead to a new career, a new way of life.

So, the house was spotless. The biscuit tin was full of bourbons (everyone’s favourite). We had even washed the dog. I was so organised you wouldn’t think I’d have time to be nervous. But I was. And, of course, it didn’t quite go to plan…

Diary: Monday 16th May 2011

Fostering advisor has just left. It was all going well until I went in search of the biscuit barrel. What is it about men and biscuits? Honestly, the way Mr C raids the snack tin, you’d think I didn’t feed him!

Over the past few days it appears that my loving husband has taken it upon himself to relieve us of our supply of biscuits. What was I going to do now – offer our guest a handful of broken, half-eaten rich teas? Thanks Mr C.

I glowered across the table at him, while he sat there with a guilty, self-pitying look on his face normally worn by dogs that steal socks or chew their owner’s credit card.

What must the fostering advisor have thought? Was she sizing me up for the worst hostess of the year award?

If she was, she didn’t show it. Sure, she was there to suss out our gaff – have a look at the spare room, make sure we weren’t harbouring nuclear arms. That sort of thing.

But she was more interested in why we wanted to foster and how it would affect us as a family. She talked us through the approval process and the different types of placements available. It made us think about things that we hadn’t even considered, like if we could foster a child with disabilities or what we would do if a child wouldn’t attend school.

Suddenly, the biscuit fiasco wasn’t so important. My nerves melted away and I began to relax. After all, we were in our own home. Where we’ve had this same conversation hundreds of times, asking ourselves, ‘Do we feel ready to become foster carers?’, ‘Are we sure it’s right for us?’ The answer is yes, every time.

Because we’re ready to do this. Willing to jump through hoops if necessary.

You never know, I might even be able to lure Mr C into tightrope walking. That man will do anything for a bourbon cream.

Mrs C

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