Fostering with the Family

Archived: Posted March 22, 2013

Core Assets Fostering - MidlandsGrowing up with siblings is rarely lonely. It can be fun (and of course it can sometimes be quite irritating!) but if you’ve grown up with brothers and sisters, you’ll know that somewhere along the line it involves a certain amount of sharing – of toys, of games, clothes and even friends. Sometimes the act of sharing can be hard, but have you ever thought how hard it might be to have to share your parents?

Sharing mum and dad is something birth children learn to do when their parents foster because when your parents become foster carers, you become a carer too.

Birth children play a really important role in the fostering process and, whether they realise it or not, they can influence the success (or breakdown) of a foster placement. Being a birth child in a foster family can be exciting when you make new friends, but equally it can sometimes be hard to get that personal connection with a foster child when they’re only staying with you for a few days, weeks or months.

Growing up in a family that fosters

Jemma was 11 when her family began fostering seven years ago in the Midlands. She talks with positivity about her experiences: “I understand that I must share my Mum’s time with the looked after young people which is sometimes hard, but I try to help Mum out. I treat the looked after young people as if they were my brother or sister and do normal sisterly things like doing each other’s hair. Sometimes they tell me things that they don’t tell Mum so I’ll look out for them and give them advice.”

Lily is 10 and has grown up in a fostering family with her older brother. She enjoys it and says: “I’ve learnt a lot because of fostering. We’ve learned to be more tolerant and share things better. And it’s made us realise that a lot of children are less fortunate than ourselves and aren’t able to live with their mum or at home so it has really opened our eyes.”

Many foster carers express their admiration and pride at how their children have coped with being young carers and helped the young people who come to live with them; often the smallest things can help the most, like sharing a favourite toy or playing a fun game together.

Although sharing your parents is a huge ask for any child, most wouldn’t have it any other way:

“If I could go back now and change anything that has happened in my past I, like anyone, would change some things. But being part of a fostering family would definitely not be one of them”.

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