Luke and Bradley’s Story

Archived: Posted February 27, 2017

“Fostering has taught us that families come in all shapes and sizes.’’

Luke (25) and Bradley (24), from Paignton have been foster carers with Foster Care Associates (FCA) for two years. In this time the couple have looked after more than 10 children and young people from different backgrounds, ages and walks of life. Luke and Bradley explain that the main reason they started fostering with FCA was to fulfil their dream of adopting children one day, and this seemed a natural first step for them. Bradley said: ‘’ We first considered fostering after seeing such a positive change in the children my parents fostered.”

‘’We always wanted children but instead of going down the surrogate route Luke and I knew that there are already children out there in need of safe and loving homes. Also being a same sex couple we saw fostering as a natural step before adopting.

‘’Before we made any definite decisions we discussed our desire to foster with our friends and family. Being foster carers themselves our families were naturally very supportive, however some of our friends were a little sceptical due to our age. Fostering with FCA has taught us that age is certainly not a barrier though.’’

The couple describe the kind of reactions they receive when people find out they are foster carers. Bradley said: ‘’The reaction we sometimes receive from other foster care professionals is that they don’t actually realise we are carers due to our young age.

‘’ In terms of being a same sex couple, we have had some good responses from people who feel that it helps broadens young people’s minds about the diversity of people that live in our world.

‘’We have only ever had one respite placement refuse us as same sex carers. No big deal was made about this at all.  Although this did upset us, we are really pleased that for the majority of our foster placements it has never been an issue.

We have also never received any negative comments or reactions about being a same sex couple from the birth parents of the children we look after. It just isn’t something that needs to be a barrier and this is a message we would to spread amongst people in the LGBTQ community who may be considering fostering.

Luke and Bradley offer some advice to people considering fostering: ‘’Our advice to anybody thinking about fostering is to always expect the unexpected. If you are in the LGBTQ community, remember it is not only male and female partnerships that make good parents. Good families come in all shapes and sizes.

‘’It is one of the most rewarding roles you can ever do.  When it is good, it is really good, and when the times are challenging, they can be really challenging but FCA have been there to support us through all of these times.

‘’From the experience’s we have had, we would not change a thing. Every day is always different with its own set of challenges and rewards.’’

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