Liz and Angela’s story

Archived: Posted April 25, 2016

Foster couple Liz and Angela live in Newport, South Wales and have been fostering with Foster Care Associates for more than three years. Liz, originally from Texas moved to the UK nine years ago, and has been in a relationship with Angela for eleven years.

Foster carers Liz and Angela“Our decision to foster was a private decision we made as a couple. As an older couple we knew we would not be able to have children of our own so we chose fostering as a way to have children in our life, and build a family unit. We understand that all the children we care for have mothers and fathers of their own but we have the opportunity to offer them a second kind of family – a foster family.

“Foster Care Associates has not treated us any differently because we are a gay couple and we’re happy about that. Before we joined FCA we did go through the assessment process with a different agency. Unfortunately the assessor admitted to us that there was someone within that agency that might have a problem with a gay couple. We stopped the process there and then and regret we did not find FCA sooner!

“We feel respected as a same sex couple and have experienced no issues in our community, at school, or amongst other carers – in fact the friendships we’ve built up with other foster carers have given us great support. Angie’s sister is also a foster carer with Foster Care Associates. We’re happy that we’re not treated differently to other foster carers, and have access to the excellent support offered by FCA whenever we need it.

“We have had both straight and gay children placed with us, and haven’t experienced any issues from any children unhappy to be living with us because we are gay. All children have been carefully placed by the agency and social workers, considering all aspects of our lifestyle. We are animal lovers and often we are more concerned that the children get along well with our pets rather than worrying about the possibility that they would oppose living with a gay couple. Our experience has shown us that children are more likely to accept our choice of lifestyle more so than some adults.

“Any LGBT couple or person should not worry about their sexual orientation being an obstacle to fostering. In our case it has sometimes been an advantage and there have been some children that have needed to be living in a home like ours. Children need love but they also need understanding.

“Being a gay couple we understand what it’s like to face discrimination in our own lives. Many foster children face discrimination just because they are in care – this is on top of everything else they have had to face in their young life. Angie and I believe LGBT carers can offer a unique type of understanding and support for children facing challenging situations.

“There have been many times where we’ve seen that we’ve actually made a positive impact on a child’s life, even in the smallest of examples, in fact many of the children and young people from the eighteen placements we’ve had still keep in touch with us. We are sure there are many more LGBT couples and single people out there that are wondering if they too could foster, and we would definitely say YES!”

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