Crystal and Katie’s story

Archived: Posted April 25, 2016

Crystal and Katie Lucas from Yorkshire are a foster carer couple who began fostering nearly seven years ago and have not looked back since. The couple enjoy a happy and active home life with their four cats Tinker, KaCi, Tigra and Tiza. They met 10 years ago and became official Civil Partners in 2006.

Crystal explains: “Being a foster carer isn’t always easy but when you see a child grow and improve at something you have helped them with, it makes all the hard work worthwhile. Teaching a child right from wrong is one part of our role and when you actually begin to see them listen and act upon your advice, you feel you have made positive strides forward.

Foster carers Crystal and Katie

“We are no different from other foster carers when it comes to challenges in fostering. Challenges can come from the child or young person who may harbour complex emotional issues or they can come from simple tasks like getting permission for haircuts, school trips or an overnight stay at a friend’s house.

“Being a same sex couple we still have some negative opinions to overcome. We are in the minority and it isn’t always easy. On a recent sign language course, we were set individual tasks of signing a sentence. When I signed Katie is my wife, I was corrected to say Katie is my sister, since this is what they assumed I was trying to sign. There were a few red faces that day!

“We have to be prepared for what other people’s preconceived ideas are of us before they have even met us and that can be tricky.”

Crystal and Katie have pursued their fostering careers with determination and commitment. Working with Foster Care Associates they have the full backing from professionals who are always on hand to offer guidance and advice, day or night.

“Anyone who is considering becoming a foster carer needs to have bags of patience. It can be a long path before it gets easier, but it does. Sometimes it can feel that you have tried everything and that it doesn’t seem to be working but if you commit and be consistent and show the child or young person that you are going to stick by them, then eventually you will start to see those little signs of improvement.”

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