Claudia and Denshloy’s story

Archived: Posted May 9, 2016

“I would not be the same person without this experience”

Claudia and Denshloy Myrie from Princes Risborough, Buckinghamshire are at the beginning of their fostering journey with Foster Care Associates (FCA) having started fostering only 2.5 years ago. The couple look after two brothers, which initially began on a short term basis but after two years has developed into a more permanent long term placement, and couldn’t be more pleased with the outcome.

Claudia and Denshloy compare their experience fostering to that of a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes a little challenging but overall an amazing experience, they wish to do over and over again.

Claudia MyrieClaudia said: “I was fostered for a brief time myself and always knew that I would like to foster at some point in my life. I felt very passionate about the fact that there are so many children in the world needing homes. Admittedly I can’t help everyone but knew that helping even one child would make a great start.

“Before my fostering journey began I was a teacher and when time allows I still dip in and out of running an online web development business, but essentially fostering is my full time job and I wouldn’t have it any other way.”

When asked about her friends and family reactions to wanting to become a foster carer Claudia said: “I had spoken about fostering for such a long time so people who knew me knew this was something I always wanted to do so it was no surprise when we began the process of becoming foster carers. We experienced a little doubt from older members of our family, as being from an afro-Caribbean background it is uncommon for younger couples with no children of their own to take this kind of route. Regardless of this however, everyone we knew supported us through the process.”

Feeling lucky that they have been able to devote all their time into one fostering placement Claudia describes two favourable moments with her eldest, as well as her youngest foster children. She said: “One of my best fostering moments has to be when the eldest entered his first athletics competition. Prior to this he was quite self-destructive and never completed a task or activity. So that day at his competition we finally saw him believe in himself and it was really special.

“Another great moment for us was when my youngest foster child was initiated at his Cubs Club. Seeing him wear his uniform with such pride and seeing his face when we all arrived to support him was a day I’ll never forget.”

Claudia also described the first time they took the brothers on their first holiday abroad. She said: “Taking the boys on their first ever holiday was a fantastic moment for us. Seeing their faces light up when they realised they would be going on an aeroplane was a picture.”

The couple reflected on some of the challenges they have experienced being foster carers and offer some advice to people considering this path. Claudia said: “We often end up questioning ourselves when it comes to certain reactions or behaviour patterns with the boys, when we shouldn’t. It’s hard to remember that this type of thing is normal. We have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that the children may have experienced something that we are none the wiser about, which may have provoked a certain reaction.

“If I could offer any advice to somebody in the process of considering fostering I would tell them to assess the reasons for wanting to foster and if these include wanting to make a change, or if love is at their foundation, then go for it. People thinking of fostering should never believe it is a walk in the park, they will need to open their minds and their hearts for change.”

When reflecting on the kind of support Claudia and Denshloy receive, she described the FCA support as endless. She said: “From constant day to day support from social workers, right through to support from therapists, as well as from other carers, it’s endless. We are also given constant training which reinforces this support.’”

Claudia also provided some insight to new foster carers urging them to never to take things personally. She said: “Always have an open mind and be prepared to be completely flexible. Take things one day at a time and keep trying to learn more about your young person and love them, essentially that is what gets us through tough times.”

To sum up their experience over the past two and a half years Claudia and Denshloy feel so privileged about their fostering journey.

“We have jumped into this career with our hearts open and with the willingness to accept challenges. We have had some downs and at times and would describe this journey as a roller coaster, it’s been one of those roller coasters that you experience every feeling on all at once. Where you enjoy the ride that much that you would queue up to experience it time and time again. I would not be the same person without this experience.”

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