Clare & Dean’s Story

Archived: Posted August 2, 2016

“Sometimes it will be difficult but it will be the best thing you’ll ever do in your life”

Clare and Dean Williams, who live near Bridgend in South Wales, have been foster carers with Foster Care Associates (FCA) for six and a half years and describe their fostering journey so far as sometimes difficult but the best decision they ever made.ClareDeanWilliams-SouthWales

Dean explains how after learning more about fostering from FCA his opinion on becoming a foster carer changed massively. He said: “For years my wife and I have had conversations about fostering, as she had known from a young age that this was what she wanted to do. A lot of my family foster, and this also inspired and encouraged her. Initially I had a lot of questions and not enough answers, so for a long time I thought it wasn’t for us.

“When our daughter turned 16 my wife asked if we could look into fostering, I agreed and we phoned FCA. We were greeted with enthusiastic, helpful people who explained things well. We then decided to go to Skills to Foster and after two days I was totally on board. I had changed my mind completely and we both agreed fostering was definitely for us.

“We have fostered a variety of children and young people who have had their difficulties and challenges. But with a lot of listening, perseverance and love, I feel we have changed and improved some young people’s lives.”

Dean reflects on how fostering has changed their lives, and even inspired him to change his career.  He said:  “Not only have the lives of the children in our care changed but our lives have as well. For 20 years I was employed as a HGV driver but since becoming a foster carer it has inspired me to do my QCF level 3 in Health and Social Care for Children and Young People, which FCA helped me with. Because of this I decided to change my job and I now work in the children’s residential sector, hopefully making a difference to the young people that I care for. This has been inspired by fostering and I can now transfer skills from both jobs.‘’

Dean describes one of the couple’s best memories since they began their fostering journey. Dean said:  “One of our happiest memories has been a recent one at the annual FCA Big Sing choir competition. A cheeky chappie staying with us stood in the middle of the stage with myself, my wife and carers as he sang with pride to an audience of 700 other carers and young people – to say I felt emotional would be an understatement.

“Another great moment for me was when I was asked to become a Carer Representative for Cymru South Swansea. This meant a lot to me and something I take very seriously.”

Dean also provides some advice for new foster carers and those considering fostering in the future.  He said:  “My advice to people who have any doubt in their minds about fostering is don’t be afraid, and ask the questions no matter how stupid you think they are. Speak to foster carers, social workers and carer representatives and use all the facilities that FCA offer. This will help put any doubts you have to rest and inspire you to make a difference to some young people’s lives.

“My advice to new foster carers would be to warn them that sometimes it will be difficult, but most of the time it’s the best thing you’ll ever do in your lives when you see the changes you will make to the lives of the young people in your care.”

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